The Top Date Ideas To Meet An Older Gay Man
Most gay people who want to date someone are ideally older gay men who are 50 and over. And they want to find out what matters to them in a serious relationship. In this article, you can find date ideas to meet an older gay man. Most of these mature gay men hire a professional dating coach and matchmaker because they are done with the hookup phases and have decided to go down the path of finding the love of their life.
Things to keep in mind while you meet an older gay man
Age difference
The age difference is a real thing that can drastically affect a relationship in the long run, and this is one of the main reasons why you should always try to match with someone who is under ten years older than you. The half-your-age-plus-seven rule to determine the minimum socially acceptable age to date is a tool. For example, if you're 50, you divide that by two, which gives you 25. Then you add seven, which provides you with 32. So you won't want to date anyone under 32.
Be honest with yourself about your relationship goals
In addition to dating someone of similar age, many gay older men want to date someone who has passion and can spark interesting conversation. Because these men lived longer, they had many more exciting stories to share about their fun and educational experiences. They also have a lot of knowledge about dating and relationships.
Trust your emotional compass to guide you to dating success
Understand this through an example: two gay men were both in their 50s. They would never consider dating because they only looked for someone 10 to 15 years younger. Since their dating styles are so similar, they roll the dice and go on a date. They did, and today they are engaged!
Facts you should accept before dating an old gay man
Embrace your new reality
For every 20-something who enters the gay dating scene with wide-eyed wonder, there's a 50-year-old (or 60, 70, or older) man returning to the market after the relationship ends. One learns the rules; the other "been there, dated it" and wonders, "Now what?" It's daunting to think about starting over.
The truth is, you have earned your age, and you can own it. Focus on what you have gained - rich experiences, achievements, survival skills, and wisdom. Your next romantic partner will benefit from all of this and your passions for the life ahead.
Give up, wanting to turn back the time. Also, give up trying to be perfect, especially if that's a code word for "young." Yes, taking care of your body and your health is essential, but there is no need to obsess. Instead of trying for 25 again, get comfortable in your skin. Feel good in your body. That way, when someone touches you, they'll feel you and not a bunch of self-critical tension. Think more about keeping the sparkle in your eyes and less about fighting the fine lines around them.
Choose your meet-and-greet locations wisely.
Indeed, the Olympic pool of dating prospects you swam through years ago feels like a bike lane in your 50s. So it's best to cast a wider net. Get off the sidelines and engage with your passions and interests. For example, if you like the outdoors, join a gay hiking or walking group and meet men while getting fresh air and exercise. Focus on smaller parties, events focused on hobbies and interests, and volunteer opportunities, and if you haven't already, try online dating, which brings new hope to those of us who don't have a lot of time or want to hang out in bars.
Check out sites to help you find long-term relationships versus flings or hookups. Then create a profile that reflects who you are and what you want and includes recent photos. Don't post a Dorian Gray profile online by flaunting your shiny youth. When it comes to truth in advertising, it's one thing to shave a few years off, and another is to skip an entire decade! If you want a real relationship, be honest. Lying raises a serious red flag. Your date will wonder, "If he's not being honest about his age, what other lies is he telling?"
Be self-aware, not rigid
One of the benefits of age is self-awareness. When you know yourself better, you can quickly guess what you want in someone. Maybe you're more cautious on first dates and immediately ruin a meaningless second night. You will soon assess whether your date wants the same level of relationship as you, whether casual or committed. You recognize dysfunction and discord more quickly now than when you were younger.
But that doesn't mean you should be rigid and inflexible. Keep an open mind and try to expand your horizons. Chat with a guy who is not your "type" and expand your boundaries. And what if you don't feel hot and sexy right away? Now, it can be comforting to find a partner who can relate to your experiences and opinions and has the same pop culture references as you.
It's also a good idea to ask your closest friends for regular feedback (yes, ask them to give you input on your actions and choices) so you don't get stuck in your ways.
Ideas for dating an old gay man
Have a spa night
Draw a hot bubble bath for two with bath crystals, strip down to your birthday suits and have a naked spa date. This bath time should include massaging each other with a body scrub, then cleansing with a body wash. Finish with a good body lotion.
Most of us don't have a complete spa kit at home. Our favorite all-in-one spa set includes shower gel, bubble bath, body lotion, body scrub, bath crystals, and sisal sponge.
It will be a relaxing, intimate evening that hopefully leads to some man-on-man action. Even this evening is better with quality wine.
Go to a local coffee shop
Go local, especially if there is a local gay/lesbian cafe to support. Grab a book or magazine and snuggle up next to each other for some education or entertainment.
Cook dinner together
Yes, using most if not all of the food you already have in your fridge and pantry is also a good plan with this gay date idea. However, you can surprise him by planning healthy gourmet meals prepared by a chef and delivered fresh to your door.
Spend the whole day in bed
It's not all about sex; sometimes, being under the covers is fun. You can even take your laptop or tablet and watch some videos together.
One of our favorite non-sexual past times in bed is journaling. It's comfortable and cozy and a great time to think and plan. We love magazines that feel organic and inspire us, not your everyday notebook.
Question to ask when you meet an old gay man on a date
Tell me about a date that turned out to be a nightmare?
What is your Myers-Briggs personality type? (A great way to find out if they have an interest in psychology or not)
Tell me about your pet?
What are you most afraid of?
Tell me about your biggest work perks and pet peeves?
Did you come out to your family? Who has supported you the most on your journey?
Are you happy at this stage of your life?
Who is your best friend? (great question to evoke nostalgia)
Offer to play a quick game with them where they say 2 "truths" and a lie. The two of you will have plenty of opportunities to bond as you toss around to guess which one is false.
Wrapping Up
Whether you've had a few bad dates or embarked on your first one, your nerves may be frayed, and you might want it to go well. Even if you can't control the outcome of your meet-cute, you can prepare some excellent conversation starters that will ensure a sparkling tte--tte at your dinner table. So, read the article and prepare for a date, and you may meet the one you hope will become the extraordinary man of your life. Follow perfect10dating.com for more dating tips, advice, and coaching for a successful dating life.
