In majority of the cases, a single mom is a woman who has been into a marriage which didn't work out, for different reasons. These women have children as well. Dating a single mother have its own pros and cons. But out of all this, the good thing is that the pros of dating a single mom will always outweigh the cons, so do not panic if you have your eyes stuck on one. If you really feel in love with her, then go for it. In order to make it a successful experience, do the following:
The most important aspect of any single mother’s life is her children. So, in order to win her heart, make her kids seek a permanent place in your mind and heart. In case it turns out that the children hate you, then she will automatically think about dumping you.
Talking her about her ex-husband is like reminding her what she is trying to forget by bringing you in her life. Thus, always avoid the topic, unless and until she starts with it.
If she is going through any tension with her ex, just let her handle it. She is been doing a pretty job up to this point. Though you can support and encourage her, do not contact her ex on behalf of her or get involved in an ongoing court battle over their custody agreement.
Know that at the beginning of the relationship, she will be testing your seriousness. She will have some tests for you. So, to pass all those tests, just have enough patience. Know that this is an experienced woman and a ‘hit and run’ cannot easily apply the tricks to her.
Avoid any kind of first relationship related games with her. Make her understand your plans and let her decide. Do not try to fool her around because you might not like the humiliation at the end of it.
If you are planning to ask her out, do that in advance. Basically this is to prepare her so that you are not disappointed to learn that she is engaged with something else when the date arrives. Because of the many responsibilities, know that they are always a busy woman.
Unless and until, the things have become so formal that the kids know you, do not ask to go over when the kids are around else you will be disappointed because she might not welcome you!
After you recognize the kids, do not forget to love them. They will like you in return when you are a loving step father, which will be the basis of their mother’s love for you.