The world of dating is damn confusing. There are a lot of things that can go wrong in no time. “Things are not working out” is a dialogue we get to hear often. But what if things start to “work out a little too well”? If you feel this to be familiar than chances are that you are being love-bombed!
Have you ever dated someone whose feelings turned out to be a bit too overwhelming? Or have you ever been into a relationship with someone who was in too much of a hurry to see the future with you? You know it well how irritating and suffocating it is to have such a relationship. Beyond being irritating, psychologists suggest that such a relationship can easily lead to emotional manipulation and it never ends well. This complete idea of one partner being too involved into the relationship, too early on in a relationship and prompting the other partner to feel the same is known as Love bombing.
If you have recently entered into a new relationship, then here are some of the signs that you ought to watch out for to know if you are being love-bombed or not:
# The person saying the “Love word” too early on in the relationship. Know that a few dates cannot be the basis for “love”.
# The person buying expensive gifts for you too early on in the relationship and that too without any occasion.
# The person planning vacations with you, way into the future.
# If the person has started discussing life plans or kids with you already.
It has been found that most of the love-bombers are the people who are actually too desperate to get into a relationship. These are needy and depressed individuals, who are looking out for someone to fill up their emptiness. And this could lead to them dumping you the day their emotional needs are fulfilled by you. Or they can also find another obsession.
There is another type of narcissist sociopath type of love-bomber who devises strategies to control another person. It is a kind of conscious tactic to acquire favour and power with a partner, irrespective of how they truly feel about them. Thus, such a type of partner could end up being controlling, verbally abusive or even violent.
If you have gotten into a relationship with someone who seems to be a love-bomber and if you feel that you really like this person, then the best way would be to sit them down and have a direct and frank conversation. Let them know that this is moving way too fast for you and that you really wish the relationship to continue, but at a slower pace probably. Also, make sure that at least two people in your life know about this person you are dating and have met him/her in person.
In case, however, if you too feel as much in love with your partner, even if you feel it is too early by normal dating standards, do not shy away or feel uncomfortable from your feelings. People, sometimes do fall for one another too quickly. Just ensure that the feelings are from both the sides and that you are not being manipulated by any means into a relationship.