There’s a right way and a wrong way to start dating and begin a relationship. Here are my top 9 must-know rules for doing it the right way. These rules will make your life better and happier — and make dating a lot less crazy!
Be really single — not just almost single but completely single. It’s more common to see “separated” in online dating these days, but never in my life would I date someone who was just separated. Tell me it’s done and over and you identify as single and ready. Stop trying to keep your feet in both worlds. Make a decision to get out, or get in there and work on making it better.
It’s easy to rush — rush into dating, rush into sex, rush into commitment. Rushing never helped anyone when it comes to lesbian dating. It takes time to get to know someone, and honestly most women don’t know themselves very well either.
Being thoughtful means you’ve spent time looking back on your life and at what worked and what didn’t in your relationships. It also means you’ve looked at your part in what didn’t work. You’re past blaming everything on your previous girlfriend, and you’re actually willing to own how you messed up, too.
If you’re going to do online dating, then use great pictures of yourself. That means a really good headshot with you smiling and your face really visible so I can see what you really look like. No sunglasses or baseball cap hiding your face! The next most important picture is a body shot. Yes, I mean your full body, the way it looks right now! Here’s the point — if someone is going to reject you because of your body type, let her do it online before you even meet. The worst feeling is to meet someone, have her look you up and down, and realize the date is over before it’s even begun. Let it happen online.
While you’re first getting to know each other, listen intently. Women have a lot to say, use lots of words, and get into the details, and it’s all important to most women. If your date is one of these women, listen. If she’s not one of these women, still listen. Let her do 80 percent of the talking. You’ll learn tons about her that you need to know. She’ll tell you what she’s good and not good at. She’ll tell you things like she’s a nut about being on time or that she never keeps her commitments and always runs late because she overbooks.
Don’t fight me on this. It doesn’t matter how much that dildo cost — get a new one for your new girlfriend. She’ll love you for it. She’ll love that she helped pick it out. She’ll feel really good about being the only woman you’ve shared that toy with. It’s all about making your new girlfriend feel really loved.